Winning Wisdom: One Whole Lump: Marriage 3

Topic: One Whole Lump: Marriage 3 [Wednesday, 30th August 2017]

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. Ephesians 5:25

Two people; different purposes, visions, and missions, lumped into one. Different taste, background, perspective, culture, lumped into one. Sometimes, different values, principles (we will talk about this more tomorrow) but still lumped into one, to fulfil the eternal purpose or cause that their King, the King of kings, have set out for them. While we appreciate the whole, we must also appreciate the ‘two wholes’ that make up the one whole lump. Yes, we must appreciate the individuals that are coming together, we must know and respect that it is probably two different worlds coming together. The earlier both the man and wife understands this, even before the nuptial ceremony, the better it would be for the whole lump.

These are the words of Apostles Peter in 1 Peter 3:7: “likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” This scripture shows us that indeed it is two different worlds that are coming together, and, on an individual basis, they ought to know themselves. The word knowledge in the above scripture is translated gnosis in Greek, and it means intelligence and understanding. Although, it talks to the male, that doesn’t mean it can’t also minister to the female. They must dwell together with deep intelligence and understanding of the varied layers of themselves before and during the coming together to form the whole.

You don’t only need to understand yourselves, you need to appreciate your differences. You won’t always think alike on some issues. You won’t always be in agreement, you won’t always operate on the same wavelength, with the same speed. This is where you will, sometimes, need to sheathe your opinion and views, no matter how well-intentioned. This is where you need to have an open mind, and be objective when a critical decision, that affects the union and it’s direction, needs to be made. This is where individuality is put aside also, and God’s counsel sought, for it is He Who knows the direction to lead the union to. But first, you must understand and appreciate your differences. It is key to a lasting union.

Keep winning daily.


Dear Lord, help every intending and already married couple, by Your Spirit, to understand and appreciate their differences. To always put their marriage and family first, and above themselves individually. That wisdom will teach them to seek Your counsel always, in Jesus’ Name. Amen.

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