RCCG YAYA Sunday School Students Manual 10 May 2026 Lesson 35 – Parenting Styles (Part 2)
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TOPIC: Parenting Styles (Part 2) (RCCG Sunday School Manual For Young Adults And Youths (YAYA)
MEMORY VERSE: He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. – Proverbs 13:24 (KJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: Esther 2:7, 10-11 (KJV) (Scroll down for RCCG Sunday School 10 May 2026 HYMN)
Esther 2:7
7 And he brought up Hadassah, that is, Esther, his uncle’s daughter: for she had neither father nor mother, and the maid was fair and beautiful; whom Mordecai, when her father and mother were dead, took for his own daughter.
Esther 2:10-11
10 Esther had not shewed her people nor her kindred: for Mordecai had charged her that she should not shew it.
11 And Mordecai walked every day before the court of the women’s house, to know how Esther did, and what should become of her.
INTRODUCTION: In our last lesson, we discussed the four major parenting styles namely the “permissive”, “uninvolved”, “authoritarian” and “authoritative.” We shall proceed to consider the significant responsibility Christian parents have in raising their children in a way that honours God and promotes spiritual growth, emotional well-being and career success through the lens of the Scripture.
LESSON OUTLINES:
- BIBLICAL POINTERS
- THE BEST PARENTING STYLE
1. BIBLICAL POINTERS
Your parenting style simply refers to your ap-proach to parenting. Every parent uses a method whether defined or not. The following questions will help us find out if there are scriptural pointers as to the mind of God on parenting:
- Does the Bible have anything to say about different parenting styles? Yes, it does. The Bible gives several examples of very effective parenting techniques, and some disastrous parenting methods (Genesis 18:19; 1 Samuel 2:27-30).
- Are there scriptures that reveal how parenting can be more effective? Yes! Scriptures provide guidance for parents to follow by emphasising love, care and support (Ephesians 6:4; 1Timothy 5:8; Proverbs 31:15, 21), discipline (Proverbs 23:13-14), correction (Proverbs 19:18; 29:17), and spiritual instruction (Deuteronomy 6:7; Proverbs 22:6). Knowing these pointers are not enough to make the necessary changes! Obeying them is crucial in becoming a godly and effective parent.
2 THE BEST PARENTING STYLE
Parenting does not follow a “one size fits all” model. You do not have to stick to a single approach, as there will be times when a mix of methods is necessary. The most effective parents recognise when to adjust their style based on the circumstances. For instance, an authoritarian parent might choose to be more permissive when a child is unwell, offering extra warmth and easing some restrictions e.g., “Of course, you can have ice cream for lunch and dinner”.
A permissive parent might adopt a stricter approach when a child’s safety is at risk, such as while crossing a busy street e.g., “I am holding your hand whether you want it or not.”
CONCLUSION: Use the parenting style that best suits your family’s needs with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
QUESTIONS
- What are the biblical pointers about parenting?
- Is there anything like the best parenting style?
Explain.
FURTHER READINGS:
Sunday: Deuteronomy 6:7 (KJV)
And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
Monday: 1 Timothy 5:8 (KJV)
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
Tuesday: Proverbs 29:17 (KJV)
Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
Wednesday: Proverbs 19:18 (KJV)
Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Thursday: Esther 2:7, 10-11 (KJV)
Esther 2:7 And he brought up Hadassah, that is, Esther, his uncle’s daughter: for she had neither father nor mother, and the maid was fair and beautiful; whom Mordecai, when her father and mother were dead, took for his own daughter.
Esther 2:10-11
10 Esther had not shewed her people nor her kindred: for Mordecai had charged her that she should not shew it.11 And Mordecai walked every day before the court of the women’s house, to know how Esther did, and what should become of her.
Friday: 1 Samuel 2:27-30 (KJV)
27 And there came a man of God unto Eli, and said unto him, Thus saith the Lord, Did I plainly appear unto the house of thy father, when they were in Egypt in Pharaoh’s house? 28 And did I choose him out of all the tribes of Israel to be my priest, to offer upon mine altar, to burn incense, to wear an ephod before me? and did I give unto the house of thy father all the offerings made by fire of the children of Israel? 29 Wherefore kick ye at my sacrifice and at mine offering, which I have commanded in my habitation; and honourest thy sons above me, to make yourselves fat with the chiefest of all the offerings of Israel my people? 30 Wherefore the Lord God of Israel saith, I said indeed that thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me for ever: but now the Lord saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed.
Saturday: Proverbs 31:15 (KJV)
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
ASSIGNMENT: What is the best parenting style? (No Marks).
SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
- O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
