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By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Building a Glorious Home (2)


Dear Reader,

Last week, we examined a strong foundation in building a glorious home. In the natural, it is not enough to have a good foundation in place, one must also be very conscious of using the right kind of materials to build a structure that can stand the test of time. This is equally true in marriage.

Materials, here, represent divine blue prints and Biblical principles intelligently drawn from the Word of God. The Word of God listed these three time-tested, unfailing, guaranteed materials for building a glorious home. God’s Word says:  Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches. A wise man is strong; yea, a man of knowledge increaseth strength (Proverbs 24: 3-4).

Knowledge –means facts, skills, gained through learning and experience. We live in an age of information; the informed people rule the world. If you are not informed, you will be deformed.

You must, however, translate the information to conviction, which will motivate your actions. It takes a meek and teachable spirit to go in search of relevant knowledge and apply them in the face of reality.

What Do You Need To Know?

  • That nothing in life is maintenance-free, marriage inclusive. So, work at making it work!
  • Differences must arise in marriage, but they are not proofs of crisis. If properly handled, differences are beneficial and essential to a healthy marriage/family relationship.
  • How to communicate (both verbally and non-verbally). Communication has been called the life-blood of a relationship. How true! Communication is a major weapon in our fight against crisis in the family.
  • How to confront in love (without rejecting) when things are going wrong. Speak the truth in love always, watching your timing, tone of voice and motives. “Love without truth is hypocrisy, but truth without love is brutality!” (Ephesians 4: 15).
  • How to forgive – marriage is a union of two forgivers! It’s all about giving and forgiving, as often as the need arises.
Understanding – means responding to life’s circumstances with insight, a perspective that looks at life through God’s eyes. Understanding causes you to have compassion for your spouse.
Areas of Understanding
  1. Understand who you are – your strength, weaknesses, abilities, likes, dislikes, needs, goals for life, expectations, etc. Understand yourself first!
  2. Understand what marriage is and is not. Marriage is the union of a man and a woman in an exclusive, God-ordained relationship for a life-time.
  • Marriage is a perfect union with imperfect practitioners. Marriage requires labour (Ecclesiastes 9:9) and patience to work.
  • Marriage is not an avenue for having only your needs met, but meeting the needs of another.
  • Marriage is not the source of true joy and contentment; God is.
  • Marriage is God’s mystery for earthly dominion (Genesis 1: 28).
Understand your spouse. Their background/upbringing contributed to making them who they are: their temperaments, their strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, hopes, fears, vision for life, etc. What sets them off negatively? What makes them react in the best way? Take time to study them.
When you understand your spouse, you will react differently when there is impending crisis.
  1. Understand that men and women are very different, not just physically but emotionally, in the way that they react and respond to issues and in their general outlook towards everyday life. Understand how to get the best out of your spouse, without destroying or compromising their uniqueness.
  2. Understand that you can never correct a negative action with a negative reaction. Two wrongs will never make a right. Learn to keep hurts and disappointments in perspective, and always give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.
  • Understand that love is a decision, an act of your will, a choice, commitment and hard work! Love never fails!
Wisdom – means skill in everyday living. It is the right use of knowledge and the correct application of same. It also means using what you have to get what you want. Even God needed wisdom to build the whole universe (Proverbs 8:22).
However, the first step to building a glorious home is to have a personal relationship with God, the Builder of all things. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today.  I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).


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