Consequences of Defiling the Marriage Bed (3) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Consequences of Defiling the Marriage Bed (3)


Dear Reader,

I welcome you again to this beautiful week. By the special grace of God, all that you desire concerning your marriage and home will come to pass. In the past two editions, I shared on Understanding the Marriage Bed and Causes of Bed Defilement. This week, I shall discuss: The Consequences of Defiling the Marriage Bed.

Every violation of a covenant attracts due penalty. It has been earlier established that marriage is a blood covenant. So violating it has its own consequences. One of those evils that infidelity attracts is: Shame. Here is a picture of a young man and a single lady that would not wait until they are married, before going to bed. The young man here tells her, “Come on, let’s do it. We’re going to be married anyway.” She agrees to it… becomes pregnant…goes to him and says, “I am pregnant. Let’s get married quickly,” He looks at her and says, “No way, girl!”. He walks away, leaving her in that condition, because he never loved her, he only lusted after her!

This simple narrative may sound funny, but in reality, it is not. It is a thing of shame to carry a baby that has a controversial father. It does not only bring shame to the girl, but to her family. According to the Law of Moses, such a woman must be either stoned to death or burnt with fire (Leviticus 21:9; Deuteronomy 22:20-21).God takes sexual sin very serious and do not be deceived to think that He has changed His standards. The Bible says: Be not deceived; God is not mocked… (Galatians 6:7). Also, it says: Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let everyone that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity (2 Timothy 2:19).

Bed defilement could lead to chaos in the family. David, a man after God’s heart, was caught in the web of adultery. He slept with Bathsheba, a legal wife of Uriah, one of his subjects. He did not stop at sleeping with her, but he went ahead to kill the man (2 Samuel 11).This evil attracted the judgement of God as stated in 2 Samuel 12:9-10 Wherefore hast thou despised the commandment of the Lord, to do evil in his sight? thou hast killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and hast taken his wife to be thy wife, and hast slain him with the sword of the children of Ammon. Now therefore the sword shall never depart from thine house; because thou hast despised me, and hast taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife.

This caused the death of the baby and other evils in David’s family. Amnon, his eldest son, raped his half-sister Tamar and Absalom killed Amnon, the apparent heir to the throne for the evil he did to Tamar. All these could have been averted, if David did not indulge in the sin of adultery.

Check out your life, perhaps the reoccurring evil that you are experiencing is self-inflicted as a result of the immoral act you have indulged yourself in. God is a God of mercy; He will reach out to you and deliver you if you will repent and obey His Word.

Sexual immorality could attract sickness and disease which can lead to death. In today’s world, there are numbers of sexually transmitted diseases through which the devil is causing health havoc. Apart from the money wasted on treating such ailments, some are deadly and incurable. The Bible says in Proverbs 6:27-29: Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished (NIV). Sickness is one of the effects of fornication and adultery. Stay away and you will enjoy a fulfilled life.

Perhaps you have defiled your bed at a point in time; there is a place of mercy that allows for repentance. First, you need to acknowledge your sin and be ready to forsake them. Do you want to be born again? Why not say this prayer in faith and you shall be born again! “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer, congratulations, you are born again and you are now a child of God! He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).