Pastor Faith Oyedepo

God Designed Your Home for Success [Part 5]

Dear Reader,

Enjoying a loving family is God’s utmost desire for you and your family members. It is His design from the very beginning of creation that: Man … shall leave, cleave and become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Divorce was not a part of this original plan and was never supposed to be a part (Matthew 19:4,8).

This week, I will be teaching on divorce.

What is divorce?
Divorce means legally ending a marriage. It is when a couple (husband and wife) decide that they cannot continue to live together, as husband and wife. They no longer find any joy or interest in each other. This is not the plan of God.

As I said in my previous teachings, family life has divine origin; it is not man made, but God ordained. For you to enjoy a living family, God has to be at the centre of it. If God is at the centre of your family, divorce should not be considered as an option for you, because of pressure or marital tension.

Divorce is not legally ending a marriage only, but putting death where life once was. To enjoy a loving family, therefore, divorce should not be entertained. For those about getting married or yet to marry, be very careful.

But I want to tell you that God has a better plan for you than divorce. Divorce is not as easy as it sounds. The Word says: Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, said that he hates putting away: for one covers violence with his garment, said the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that you deal not treacherously (Malachi 2:15-16).

God hates putting away, divorce and every violent act against one’s spouse in marriage. God’s Word is more than enough to handle any problem in your marriage, home and any area of your life. God’s design and plan for marriage and the family is full proof.

He put into both man and woman the ability to accommodate, support and complement each other for life. Therefore, the reason divorce occurs is when couples run marriage and their homes without God. Of course, if the Originator’s manual (the Bible) is not followed in due course, conflicts arise which give birth to tension, separation and eventually, divorce.

You cannot follow God’s instructions for marital and family success and contemplate divorce. The mention of the word ‘divorce’ will be so far from your home and family. In fact, most cases have proved that divorce is not really the solution to marital problems. God’s Word is. If you look at polygamy and you look at divorce, you find out that divorce is just a legal permission to get yourself another partner and pay less attention to your current spouse, which polygamy also does. Both situations are unhealthy for those who desire to enjoy a successful home.

In divorce, even though you have ended the marriage legally, you can’t end the life of your children or that would be murder. You can’t end your connection and link with your in-laws, the family friends you had together and so many aspects. These things would just end up haunting, you because of your failed marital life.

The truth is, you have not completely failed in your marriage until you undergo divorce. Before then, chances are you can still succeed. You can still make it work and if God is the centre of that family, nothing can stop your success except you. So, why settle for a divorce. It appears the best way out, but it eventually is a scar and wound that can’t be healed.

Look at this testimony:
“I lost my marriage in 1996, due to stupidity and ignorance. I attended Word of Faith Bible Institute (WOFBI) and during the course of Family Life, the Bishop’s wife said, ‘Divorce can be healed, wounds can be healed, but scars remain forever. As much as possible, fight them.’
I made up my mind to fight it and take my home back. I discovered there were some things I needed to drop from my life. God worked on me through the messages I received on this altar, and I straightened my path. When I got the handbills for Victory Celebration, a voice said to me, ‘Your story will also change.’

During the Victory Celebration programme, the Bishop called for sacrificial offering. The Holy Spirit told me to give my micro-wave oven, but I refused. The Spirit then asked me, ‘Where is the oven used?’ and I replied, ‘In the kitchen.’ He then said, ‘You don’t have a kitchen right now. Why don’t you give your micro-wave oven and I will release your kitchen.’

I gave the oven. That same day, the Bishop declared, ‘When next you get to your partner, you’ll discover your story has changed, I called my husband the following Monday. He said he had wanted to call me, but didn’t know how to go about it. He said he had tried to remarry twice, but it did not work. Right now, we are reconciled and there is peace in my home. My husband has more respect for me now, and I have also learnt to respect him better. I give God all the glory!”
– Adeniran, F. (Mrs.)

If you are ready to surrender your life to Christ, please say this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations!  You are now born-again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail:,; Tel.  No: 08141320204; 07026385437.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

  • Making Marriage Work
  • Marriage Covenant
  • Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

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