Having A Healthy Relationship With In-Laws (Part 4) By Pastor Faith Oyedepo
Topic: Having A Healthy Relationship With In-Laws (Part 4)
It is with great joy that I welcome you to the last edition in our teaching for this month. I know you have been following this series and as you take practical steps to obey God’s Word, your home shall not remain the same in Jesus’ precious name.
I have taught on how you can order your priorities right, the vital keys of acceptance, love and hospitality in relating with your in-laws and also the place of forgiveness. Today I shall teach on the place of wisdom in relating with in-laws.
What is wisdom?
Wisdom is knowing what to do from Scriptures and doing it. It is the correct application of knowledge. The Word of God says: Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches (Proverbs 24:3-4). Wisdom is laying hold and trading with the Word of God. A wise man is one who knows from God’s Word which way to go and how to handle situations to produce the desired result.
To successfully relate with your in-laws, you need the wisdom of God. Wisdom is a builder of homes. It is in fact the master builder’s trade secret. According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise master builder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon (1 Corinthians 3:10).
1. Wisdom Protects
The Bible says that wisdom protects (proverbs 4:6). When you are guided by Scriptures in every aspect of your life, you are walking in wisdom. This frustrates the devil, because he knows that your home is, by wisdom, founded upon a rock that no wind or storm can uproot. The Word of God states: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and It fell: and great was the fall of it (Mathew 7:24-27)
The truth about wisdom is that it is not a respecter of persons or age. Everything in life that ought to be done well, must be done with wisdom. The Bible refers to it as the principal thing (Proverbs 4:7). Wisdom is needed in taking decisions, relating with your in-laws, loving, talking, listening, asking, working, sharing, caring and in performing so many other family interactions, activities and obligations. When wisdom is in place, little things that cause tension in the family are easily handled. Lack of wisdom brings about confusion and frustration in a family.
2. Wisdom Brings Peace
The benefits of wisdom are immeasurable. Operating in wisdom with your family including your relationship with your in-laws will bring you happiness, liveliness, wealth, long life, honour, peace, pleasure, grace, safety and all round promotion. The Bible says: Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding (Proverbs 3:13). The Bible also states: wisdom makes the face of a man to shine (Ecclesiastes 8:1). A shinning face represents contentment and peace. What keeps the face shinning, is the wisdom applied in the family.
The source of true lasting wisdom that makes you relate very well with other members of your family, including in-laws, is founded in the Word of God. Wisdom is in locating the right Word concerning the family and doing it. It teaches how to say what must be said, when it should be said and in the way it should be said. It will help you relate with every member of your family accordingly.
There are many things we pray for, that may never come to us, unless our family is in order. So, you can see why it looks like that promotion, breakthrough and healing that you have prayed for are delayed. I see you receive quick answers to your prayers as you begin to operate the wisdom of God in your family from now on in Jesus name.
It is not enough to read the Word, hear it, know it, and go to Church or even pray it. Applying it is what makes it produce for you. The scripture says: But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves (James 1:22). Before you quarrel with your spouse or in- laws over any issue, count the cost of your actions and reactions – this is wisdom. Learn to adapt. When decisions that are different from your plans are taken, see how you can work them out to fit in.
To get wisdom, you need to accept the giver of wisdom. You want to be born again please pray this prayer with faith in your heart. Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Building a Successful Home, Making Marriage Work and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)
Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.