Topic: Keys to Family Increase (Part 2)
By God’s arrangement, the husband is to provide for his family. He is the one who must ensure there is food for members of his family. He must ensure that his family members are well taken care of; especially his immediate family members (Songs of Solomon 1:6). The man must labour with his hands, especially as a married man; he cannot afford to be lazy. Your hands must be working hands. There is dignity in labour. God’s Word says: Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase (Proverbs 13:11).
This week, we will be looking at the role of the man in providing for his household.It is unfair for the man to shift the responsibility of handling family finances to the woman. He may assign a portion of it to her, but should not abandon his responsibility; only to turn around and blame her half way in the month, if the money does not stretch. However, the woman ought to be hardworking and assist the man in any way possible.
A man who is too slothful to find gainful employment should not be caught eating … This we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat (2 Thessalonians 3:10).
God is serious about the need for men to rise up to their God-given roles, even in this day and age where women also work to help make ends meet. A man who is too slothful to find gainful employment should not eat. Bishop T.D. Jakes said in one of his teachings. “The first thing God gave the man was not a wife but a job, a vision, an assignment”. Right from the time Adam was blessed with a wife, the man has had to head the marriage union. This has also placed upon him the responsibility of providing for his household. God’s Word says: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Timothy 5:8).
As the man, you must be working towards a goal of some sort. You should have some gainful employment. The only time we are permitted to stop working is when we don’t want to eat anymore and that is either when you are asleep or dead. But as long as you are awake and alive then work must continue.
Look at this testimony:
“For well over three years, whatever form of business I did eventually ended me in debts, as I went into businesses without any capital. During this time, the devil would put me into one problem or another (either my children would fall sick or something else), which always disturbed and disgraced me.
The miracle came just after the Breakthrough Seminar. We were advised to do whatever was laid in our minds, and it occurred to me to start selling ice water. I prayed and started it. Since then, I had been able to pay up a major part of my debt, and now I enjoy rest of mind!” – Nagberi, R.
The man is given the responsibility to cater for his wife and children. If he fails in this duty, he is a failure! It is a curse if the wife takes up this responsibility of the man permanently in the home. For a couple to ensure they are shame-free, the man must understand this truth and rise to the occasion. When the money comes in and the man selfishly spends it on new clothes for himself, etc, he cannot win his wife’s trust. From then on, she will take money from the feeding allowance to buy her personal effects.
So, according to God, the man is the provider. He is the one who must look for food and provide for members of his family. This is in keeping with divine order. Therefore, the man must labour with his hands and expect God to bring the increase. If he does not work, no increase can come his way.
The grace to carry out your responsibility in your home can only be given by God. Do you need God’s grace in your life? Then, surrender your life to Christ. However, if you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.