Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Accepting Marital Responsibilities [Part 2]

Dear Reader,

It is a great privilege to share God’s Word with you, this glorious week. Last week, I shared with you the building of your home as your responsibility. This week, I will be looking at the man’s position in the home.

Leadership position is the Biblical role of the husband. When this is correctly interpreted and applied, it will not only result in freedom for the husband and wife, but also help you to work better as a team, to combat isolation and conflict in your marriage. The Word of God says: But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God (1 Corinthians 11:3). God has placed the husband in the position of responsibility.

The Scripture does more than assign leadership in a marriage to the husband. The above scripture provides a model for that leadership. The Apostle Paul says that the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is head of the church. This comparison of the husband with Christ reveals the sense in which a man should be his wife’s “head.” Being her head means, “he is vitally interested in her welfare. He is her protector. His pattern is Christ Who, as the head of the Church, is its Saviour!”
The man is the head and leader of the family unit. In any human organization, there is always the need for leadership and the home is an organization of some sort, requiring good leadership. The Word of God says: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body (Ephesians 5:23).

It is easier to be led than to lead. Men have to give leadership, not only to themselves, but also to their household. After creation, God brought Eve to Adam and presented her to him to lead her. The Word of God says: And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her to the man (Genesis 2:22).

The fact that God brought Eve to Adam, shows that Adam had responsibilities over Eve. In fact, it was Adam that named his wife Eve (Genesis 3:20). When God commanded Adam not to eat the fruit, Eve was not there. Adam as the leader of the family unit, ought to have communicated and relayed God’s commandment to Eve, his wife. Adam failed as the leader of the family unit, the devil penetrated the family, and humanity was dethroned.

God made the human family an unbeatable team and established them as gods on the earth, but because Adam failed in his leadership responsibilities, they lost control and were sent out of the garden of Eden (Genesis 3:23). If any man fails in his responsibilities as a leader of the family unit, it leads to dethronement. You shall not fail!

Man, if you must not suffer the kind of dethronement Adam suffered, you must have your home directly under your control. If your family fails, it is your fault and you will be held responsible by God. After Adam and Eve ate the fruit in the garden, it was Adam that God called upon not Eve, not the devil, but Adam (Genesis 3:9). Even though God knew that it was the devil that deceived them and gave them the fruit, which Eve ate before Adam, yet it was Adam that God called upon. Why? This is because God had already committed the leadership position of the home into his hand. If your family fails, you are the one that God will call upon!

The grace to lead your family is available, when you give your life to Christ. You give your life to Christ, by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord! If you want to receive this grace, could you please say this prayer:

Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to you today as a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations!  You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail:,; Tel.  No: 08141320204; 07026385437.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

  • Making Marriage Work
  • Marriage Covenant
  • Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

Click Here To Read Other Messages Written By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

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