Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Accepting Marital Responsibilities [Part 4]

Dear Reader,

You are welcome to this concluding part of the series of this month’s teaching. I have taught on building your home as your responsibility, the leadership position of the man and love as the effective tool for ruling the family.

This week, I will be concluding my teaching on the responsibility of the woman in the family unit. The roles and responsibilities of husband and wife and the way the family should be governed are described in the Bible. The woman is not without a responsibility. The Bible provides the teaching about the behaviour of husband and wife.  Apostle Paul in his letter to the Ephesians, chapter 5, verses 22 to 33, Apostle Peter in his first letter (1 Peter 3:1–7) gave clear instructions to Christian believers, on the way they ought to behave in marriage.

The Bible teaches that the wife should accept the authority of her husband to lead the family, and submit willingly to his leadership. This particular exhortation to the wife to submit to her husband is the universal teaching of the New Testament.  Every passage that deals with the relation­ship of the wife to her husband, tells her to “submit to him.”  Colossians 3:18 tells wives to submit to their husbands, as is fitting in the Lord, and Titus 2:5 instructs wives ‘to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no-one will malign the word of God’.  Look at this testimony below:

“I’ve been married for over 12 years now and what I’m enjoying now, I’ve never enjoyed since I got married. I thank God for our mother in the Lord, who during the Family Renewal seminar in March 1995 preached to us. Ever since, the Lord has turned around the tide, just through my obedience to the Word.

She preached that day and laid emphasis on wives being submissive to their husbands in everything, just like the church submits to Christ. She also said we were to be submissive in everything. I didn’t realize that I wasn’t totally submissive to him. I wept so much in church that day and went to the Lord saying, ‘Lord, from this day, I know that obedience is the key.’

Ever since that day, I’ve been enjoying what all my fasting, binding and all couldn’t deliver to me. I had done so many things to get my husband to love me – fasted, bound, loose – but I thank God that now it’s like I’m wedded anew”. Just yesterday morning, to confirm God’s faithfulness in my home, my husband gave me a cheque for one hundred thousand Naira, which I cashed this morning. I now enjoy peace, love and harmony. -Adebayo, L.

The example that is used to illustrate the right attitude, is that she should submit to her husband in the same way, as the Church submits to its Lord.  There can be no greater example of submission.  So, the wife should not in any way undermine the authority of her husband, for that would damage the family of which she is an integral part; it would also damage her children.  Moreover, not only should she submit with an attitude of complete accept­ance, but also in everything (Ephesians 5:24).

God took one of the ribs of Adam, not from the head but by the side. This shows that the woman is not meant to dominate the man. She is not meant to rule over the man. That is why in a home, where the woman wants to take the place of the man, there will always be problem. There is no man who does not want to be respected. There is no man who doesn’t want to be given the honour that is due to him.

As a woman, if you want peace in your home, respect your husband, honour him, give him the honour that is due to him. Until you give him his place, there will not be peace at home. As a woman, I want you to know that you occupy an enviable position in your family. The devil himself, is envious of the woman.

Are you ready to give your life to Christ today? Giving your life to Christ entails confessing your sins, forsaking them and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this experience, please say this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan, to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom

Congratulations!  You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail:,; Tel.  No: 08141320204; 07026385437.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

Making Marriage Work
Marriage Covenant
Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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