Pastor Faith Oyedepo: What About Divorce? [Part 3]

Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: What About Divorce? [Part 3]

Dear Reader,

Greetings in the precious Name of our Lord, Jesus Christ. You are specially welcome to God’s presence, in Jesus’ name.

We have been on this teaching for the past two weeks now. The first week, we saw that from the beginning, God’s intention was for husband and wife to live together for life. Last week, we also saw the place of forgiveness and that we are not perfect people; we can make mistakes.

This week, I will be showing you the steps to take to make things right. There’s a proverb that says, “Tall oaks from little acorns grow”. The problems in marriages that have grown so big and so tall, started as tiny seeds. To solve some of these problems, you must trace them to their roots, and find out how and where you missed it. When this is done, you must accept responsibility for your actions and reactions, and admit these to God in prayer. Don’t shift blame because if you do, you are trying to exonerate yourself and restoration cannot come. The first step to take is:

Begin at the beginning

Go back to your original vow, to remain married for the rest of your lives. “The way to renew a marriage doesn’t begin with a change of emotions,” “but with an act of will.” The restoration of joy and fulfillment is brought about by living by our promises.

Let Go of Past Hurts

As Philippians 3:13-14 says: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal… In this case, let your goal be a mutually satisfying union. Begin to appreciate your spouse for who he/she is (among other things, trustworthy and responsible). Before you know it, you will begin to see a new spouse.

Think Right

Think right about your spouse, even if he or she offends you. God’s Word says: For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts… (Mark 7:21). One thing my husband does, which I have learnt from him is to make excuses for the people who offend him. He says, “Maybe it’s the best he knows to do.” Learn to make allowances for other people’s mistakes. Even if the offence is deliberate, let God be the judge (Psalm 94:1).

Speak Right


You can guard your tongue from hurting your partner, by choosing your words carefully and speaking wisely (Proverbs 25:11). If you have offended your partner, saying “I am sorry” from the depth of your heart is not asking for too much. You must get into the habit of apologizing, owning up when you are wrong. One major way to speak right is to be quick to hear and slow to speak, slow to wrath.

Dare to Believe God For the Best in Your Relationship With Your Spouse


Paul reminds us in Ephesians 3:20-21 that God is able to do super-abundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think—infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes or dreams (Amplified). That promise is true for marriages—even when only one partner is willing to change. Instead of bemoaning a marriage mistake, you can relinquish your ideas of what makes a satisfying marriage, and ask God to give you a good heart towards your spouse.

There is good in your marriage, but it will take willful obedience to it. Any step you take in obedience to God’s Word, will always guarantee a reward. One sister shared this very amazing testimony, to show that obedience to God’s Word has rewards.

“I’ve been married for over 12 years, and what I’m enjoying now, I had never enjoyed such since I got married. I thank God for our mother in the Lord, who during the Family Renewal seminar in March 1995 preached to us. Ever since, the Lord has turned around the tide, just through my obedience to the Word.

She preached that day and laid emphasis on wives being submissive to their husbands in everything, just like the Church submits to Christ. She also said we were to be submissive in everything. I didn’t realise that I wasn’t totally submissive to him. I wept so much in church that day, and went to the Lord, saying, ‘Lord, from this day, I know that obedience is the key.’ Since that day, I’ve been enjoying what all my fasting, binding and all couldn’t deliver to me. I had done so many things to get my husband to love me – fasted, bound, loose – but I thank God that now it’s like I’m wedded anew.
Just yesterday morning, to confirm God’s faithfulness in my home, my husband gave me a cheque of one hundred thousand naira, which I cashed this morning. I now enjoy peace, love and harmony.” – Adebayo, L.

It’s your turn for a testimony! Be blessed!

The starting point to enjoying the good in your marriage is to invite Jesus into your home. This invitation begins with a simple prayer said with faith in your heart. If you would like to do that, please pray this prayer:

Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations!

You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

Marriage Covenant,
Making Marriage Work,
Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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