RCCG Sunday School Student Manual 19 April 2026 – Lesson 33
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TOPIC: Sustaining The Chase (RCCG Sunday School Student Manual 19 April 2026)
MEMORY VERSE: Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine. – Song of Solomon 1:2 (KJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: Song of Solomon 1:13-17 (KJV) (RCCG Sunday School Student Manual 19 April 2026)
13 A bundle of myrrh is my well-beloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.
14 My beloved is unto me as a cluster of camphire in the vineyards of Engedi.
15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.
16 Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green.
17 The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.
INTRODUCTION: Just as a romantic chase begins when two people first “fall in love,” a successful marriage requires “sustaining the chase” by maintaining the excitement, passion, and commitment they had in the early days of their relationship. It is easy to get caught up in the daily routine of life, but couples must prioritise their relationship and make intentional choices to keep the spark alive. This lesson will consider the things couples do to kill the chase and identify elements of a sparkling relationship.
LESSON OUTLINES
- WAYS COUPLES KILL THE CHASE
- KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE
1. WAYS COUPLES KILL THE CHASE
Some men change drastically (after the wedding) from being the “lover boy” to an uncaring, neglectful, and insensitive dictator. They prioritise making money over spending quality time with their spouse (Song of Solomon 5:6; 3:1). They tactically and practically leave most household chores to the wife. Some men even overlook their wife’s contributions in keeping the home (1 Timothy 5:8). They stop being romantic, not using words of affirmation and the love language of their spouses. They display ego by not being apologetic when they are wrong (1 Peter 3:7).
Some ladies look perfect when they are “courters,” but after the wedding, they fall into the mistake of attempting to change their husband (Proverbs 14:1), constantly nagging or criticising (Proverbs 21:19; 27:15), drastically reducing physical intimacy (Song of Solomon 1:2), being ungrateful and not recognising their husband’s efforts (Proverbs 19:13b), looking unkempt and unattractive (Proverbs 5:19), being unsupportive and disrespectful to their husbands (Proverbs 12:4).
2. KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE
Relationship is a two-way street; it requires give and take. Therefore, partners must work together to sustain the glow. Here are some ways to keep the flame in your relationship:
- Communicate: Communicate your feelings, needs and thoughts to your partner in a mature way. Be an active listener and make sure you are understood (Proverbs 15:23; 25:11-12).
- Initiate intimacy: Intimacy is essential for building trust and honesty. Hugging, kissing, regular sex, holding hands and sharing secrets no one else knows may also help (Song of Solomon 1:2; Proverbs 5:19).
- Express gratitude: Expressing gratitude can make good times even better and help you through bad times (Hebrews 10:24).
- “Alone time”: Maybe some “alone time”, away from your partner for a short while (where necessary) may reduce the “see-finish syndrome” and rekindle the fire of love.
- Be adventurous: Go beyond the events of the day, take fun-filled trips, and build new experiences together like a new hobby e.g. cuisine, vacation, running, etc. (Genesis 26:8; Song of Solomon 2:14).
- Impress each other: Remember the things you did at the beginning of your love journey that endeared your spouse to you e.g. wear a scent or colour of clothing your spouse likes seeing on you (Song of Solomon 4:10-11).
- Put your phone down: Stay present whenever you are together.
- Make laughing together a top priority (Proverbs 17:22).
- Plan surprise dates and ensure you do not skip them. Try to change location for the sake of variety.
- Get committed: Set goals and work them out, overcome challenges together, build a shared vision and prioritise the relationship (Amos 3:3).
CONCLUSION: Remember that change starts with you.
QUESTIONS
- Mention two ways each couple kill the chase.
- State five things couples can do to keep me.
FURTHER READINGS:
Sunday: Amos 3:3 (KJV)
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Monday: Song of Solomon 5:6 (KJV)
I opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself, and was gone: my soul failed when he spake: I sought him, but I could not find him; I called him, but he gave me no answer.
Tuesday: Genesis 26:8 (KJV)
And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife.
Wednesday: Proverbs 5:19 (KJV)
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Thursday: Proverbs 17:22 (KJV)
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
Friday: Hebrews 10:24 (KJV)
And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
Saturday: Song of Solomon 4:10-11 (KJV)
10 How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices! 11 Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.
ASSIGNMENT: State five (5) things couples can do to keep the spark alive (2×5=10 Marks).
RCCG Sunday School HYMN
- O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School. - O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
