RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 11 April 2021 – Lesson 32

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TOPIC: Sexual Intimacy In Marriage (Part 1) (RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 11 April 2021)

MEMORY VERSE: “A bundle of myrrh is my wellbeloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.” – Songs of Solomon 1:13


BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 5:15-20 KJV (RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 11 April 2021)

15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.

16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.

17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.

18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

INTRODUCTION: Sexual intimacy means that a married couple (man and woman) share a special bond characterised by a shared sensual expression. They understand each other on a sexual level that has emotion behind it, instead of just being a physical act. Sexual intimacy generates pleasure and natural satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage. It is a complex expression of love and a desire to communicate such love non-verbally. It gives the husband and wife a chance to express all the good feelings and thoughts they have towards each other.


  1. Some Facts About Sexual Intimacy In Marriage
  2. Benefits Of Sexual Intimacy In Marriage


Sexual intimacy in marriage is neither dirty nor sinful (1 Corinthians 7:2-5). It is God-ordained primarily for mutual pleasure (Genesis 2:24-25) and secondarily for procreation (Genesis 1:28). It is only in the context of a legitimate marriage that sexual intimacy is approved by God (Genesis 4:1).

Satisfactory sexual intimacy provides the forum in which deep relationship is developed, not only physically but also psychologically and emotionally (Proverbs 5:15-20). It is a common pathway that provides an opportunity for care, demonstration of love and the reciprocity of such (SOS. 4:1-7). It should be a lifelong relationship for married couples (Matthew 19:4-6). If approached correctly and are well aroused, both husband and wife can reach the level of sexual pleasure or excitement called orgasm (SOS. 1:2; 7:3, Proverbs 5:19). Sex should not be withheld or demanded. If one spouse does not want to have sex the other spouse should agree to abstain. If one spouse wants to have sex the other spouse should agree. It is all a matter of compromise to achieve intimacy (1 Corinthians 7:4). Sex in marriage should not just be used for gratification or as a weapon of revenge. God designed the body to respond pleasurably to touch in certain areas. He could have made us with no desire for sexual intimacy and no gratifying sensations during sexual intimacy, but He did not (James 1:17).


There are several benefits of sexual intimacy. These benefits are stated in the table below as it affects the man, his wife and the couple mutually. However, these are not medical advices but for educational purposes.


  • Reduces the risk of developing prostate cancer
  • Reduces waist and scrotal pain
  • Increases sperm counts
  • Improves cardiovascular health
  • Increases immunity and body fitness
  • Increases level of testosterone
  • Promotes long life


  • Improves bladder control
  • Relieves menstrual and premenstrual cramps
  • Improves fertility
  • Builds stronger pelvic muscles
  • Helps produce more vagina lubrications
  • Potentially protects against endometriosis (the growth of tissue outside uterus)
  • Improves the production of the hormone oestrogen which protects against heart disease and also determines a woman’s body scent


  • Regulates blood pleasure
  • Burns calories
  • Strengthens muscles
  • Reduce risk of heart diseases, stroke and hypertension
  • Increases libido and reduces inordinate affection
  • Promotes better sleep and headache relief
  • Emotionally boost confidence, increases happiness, level of trust, intimacy and love
  • Improves ability to perceive, identify and express emotions
  • Reduces stress and makes couples look younger and live longer
  • Helps create a bond between the husband and his wife.

CONCLUSION: Sex in marriage is pleasurable and it creates intimacy between a man and his wife.

i. What are some basic facts of sexual intimacy known to you?
ii. What do couples gain in being sexually intimate?

ASSIGNMENT: Mention five troubles/problems which sexual intimacy prevents the spouse from encountering.

RCCG Sunday School HYMN

  1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
    O how I love Thee well,
    I am happy, it makes me glad
    To rejoice at Thy birth.
  2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
    Thy friendship suits me well,
    Both young and old will sing Thy song,
    We long for Sunday School.
  3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
    Christ was Thy first teacher,
    The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
    Does manifest in thee.
  4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
    This testimony is sure,
    That God, the Father Almighty,
    Poured His blessing on Thee.
  5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
    Though the sun be so bright,
    Or if the clouds black with rain,
    I’ll be in Sunday School.
  6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
    I rejoice to see Thee,
    Will thou pass over me today?
    Without my being blest?