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| Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo |
Topic: Secrets to Marital Bliss! (2)
Dear Reader,
Last week, one of the secrets to marital bliss, which is wisdom, was unlocked to us. This week, we will yet be looking at another secret, Effective Communication.
There are many families on this earth that are not alive, but dead. They are just existing by name. When it comes to how each member relates to the other, there is no life, no communication. You won’t believe that such people are from the same family by the way they treat each other.
Being a family by name alone means bearing the family name e.g. Ademola’s family, Olushola’s family etc. When it comes to common characteristics e.g. love, discussions, doing things together, etc., they are poles apart. This ought not to be so, but the life line (communication) is not functioning properly, and in some cases it has been cut off. To prevent your family from merely existing, instead of thriving (growing strong, healthy, prospering etc), don’t just talk to each other at home; rather, you must learn to communicate effectively.
The difference between talking and communication is: talking is one way and may not necessarily be sincere (truth and sincerity are probably absent), but communication and the right kind is two-way – both parties are airing their views and truth, and sincerity are involved. To communicate means to share or exchange information. You may ask, “This is what I think; how about you? What do you think?” It also means to consider the other person’s view; or to be connected.
It is coined from the word communion, which means “sharing in common.” A wise man once said, “If you talk together, you will stay together” and the opposite is true too. Any conversation which is one-way falls short of God’s ideal in the family.
For instance, if as a couple, you as the wife are always talking and never allowing your husband to speak or properly express himself, you will find out that most times he will end up doing things that surprise you. You may feel, “He never discussed it with me”. Probably, you didn’t give him the time to discuss with you; rather, you controlled the conversation most times. My husband once said, “Poor communication is the major cause for brutality”. Since they can’t communicate effectively, such couples resort to physical combat and violence, in order to express their deep feelings.
Most times, you find out that your children are not opening up to you all of a sudden, and you are panicking because they are becoming strangers to you. Maybe you haven’t created time to spend with them and discuss or you have been the only one talking in your discussions with them and not encouraging them to share their minds and feelings with you, or you scold them too often. Try and think of when the breakdown in communication started.
Effective communication begins with having a good relationship with Jesus Christ. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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