RCCG House Fellowship 21 July 2019 Lesson 47 – Wives, Submit And Support Your Husbands

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TOPIC: Wives, Submit And Support Your Husbands (scroll down for RCCG House Fellowship 21 July 2019 Anthem)

PRAYER POINT: Father, please help me to suit totally to my husband. (RCCG House Fellowship 21 July 2019)

BIBLE PASSAGE: Ruth 1:4-19

4 And they took them wives of the women of Moab; the name of the one was Orpah, and the name of the other Ruth: and they dwelled there about ten years.

5 And Mahlon and Chilion died also both of them; and the woman was left of her two sons and her husband.

6 Then she arose with her daughters in law, that she might return from the country of Moab: for she had heard in the country of Moab how that the LORD had visited his people in giving them bread.

7 Wherefore she went forth out of the place where she was, and her two daughters in law with her; and they went on the way to return unto the land of Judah.

8 And Naomi said unto her two daughters in law, Go, return each to her mother’s house: the LORD deal kindly with you, as ye have dealt with the dead, and with me.

9 The LORD grant you that ye may find rest, each of you in the house of her husband. Then she kissed them; and they lifted up their voice, and wept.

10 And they said unto her, Surely we will return with thee unto thy people.

11 And Naomi said, Turn again, my daughters: why will ye go with me? are there yet any more sons in my womb, that they may be your husbands?

12 Turn again, my daughters, go your way; for I am too old to have an husband. If I should say, I have hope, if I should have an husband also to night, and should also bear sons;

13 Would ye tarry for them till they were grown? would ye stay for them from having husbands? nay, my daughters; for it grieveth me much for your sakes that the hand of the LORD is gone out against me.

14 And they lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother in law; but Ruth clave unto her.

15 And she said, Behold, thy sister in law is gone back unto her people, and unto her gods: return thou after thy sister in law.

16 And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:

17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the LORD do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me.

18 When she saw that she was stedfastly minded to go with her, then she left speaking unto her.

19 So they two went until they came to Bethlehem. And it came to pass, when they were come to Bethlehem, that all the city was moved about them, and they said, Is this Naomi?

1 Samuel 25:3-36:

3 Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb.

4 And David heard in the wilderness that Nabal did shear his sheep.

5 And David sent out ten young men, and David said unto the young men, Get you up to Carmel, and go to Nabal, and greet him in my name:

6 And thus shall ye say to him that liveth in prosperity, Peace be both to thee, and peace be to thine house, and peace be unto all that thou hast.

7 And now I have heard that thou hast shearers: now thy shepherds which were with us, we hurt them not, neither was there ought missing unto them, all the while they were in Carmel.

8 Ask thy young men, and they will shew thee. Wherefore let the young men find favour in thine eyes: for we come in a good day: give, I pray thee, whatsoever cometh to thine hand unto thy servants, and to thy son David.

9 And when David’s young men came, they spake to Nabal according to all those words in the name of David, and ceased.

10 And Nabal answered David’s servants, and said, Who is David? and who is the son of Jesse? there be many servants now a days that break away every man from his master.

11 Shall I then take my bread, and my water, and my flesh that I have killed for my shearers, and give it unto men, whom I know not whence they be?

12 So David’s young men turned their way, and went again, and came and told him all those sayings.

13 And David said unto his men, Gird ye on every man his sword. And they girded on every man his sword; and David also girded on his sword: and there went up after David about four hundred men; and two hundred abode by the stuff.

14 But one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal’s wife, saying, Behold, David sent messengers out of the wilderness to salute our master; and he railed on them.

15 But the men were very good unto us, and we were not hurt, neither missed we any thing, as long as we were conversant with them, when we were in the fields:

16 They were a wall unto us both by night and day, all the while we were with them keeping the sheep.

17 Now therefore know and consider what thou wilt do; for evil is determined against our master, and against all his household: for he is such a son of Belial, that a man cannot speak to him.

18 Then Abigail made haste, and took two hundred loaves, and two bottles of wine, and five sheep ready dressed, and five measures of parched corn, and an hundred clusters of raisins, and two hundred cakes of figs, and laid them on asses.

19 And she said unto her servants, Go on before me; behold, I come after you. But she told not her husband Nabal.

20 And it was so, as she rode on the ass, that she came down by the covert of the hill, and, behold, David and his men came down against her; and she met them.

21 Now David had said, Surely in vain have I kept all that this fellow hath in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that pertained unto him: and he hath requited me evil for good.

22 So and more also do God unto the enemies of David, if I leave of all that pertain to him by the morning light any that pisseth against the wall.

23 And when Abigail saw David, she hasted, and lighted off the ass, and fell before David on her face, and bowed herself to the ground,

24 And fell at his feet, and said, Upon me, my lord, upon me let this iniquity be: and let thine handmaid, I pray thee, speak in thine audience, and hear the words of thine handmaid.

25 Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him: but I thine handmaid saw not the young men of my lord, whom thou didst send.

26 Now therefore, my lord, as the LORD liveth, and as thy soul liveth, seeing the LORD hath withholden thee from coming to shed blood, and from avenging thyself with thine own hand, now let thine enemies, and they that seek evil to my lord, be as Nabal.

27 And now this blessing which thine handmaid hath brought unto my lord, let it even be given unto the young men that follow my lord.

28 I pray thee, forgive the trespass of thine handmaid: for the LORD will certainly make my lord a sure house; because my lord fighteth the battles of the LORD, and evil hath not been found in thee all thy days.

29 Yet a man is risen to pursue thee, and to seek thy soul: but the soul of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of life with the LORD thy God; and the souls of thine enemies, them shall he sling out, as out of the middle of a sling.

30 And it shall come to pass, when the LORD shall have done to my lord according to all the good that he hath spoken concerning thee, and shall have appointed thee ruler over Israel;

31 That this shall be no grief unto thee, nor offence of heart unto my lord, either that thou hast shed blood causeless, or that my lord hath avenged himself: but when the LORD shall have dealt well with my lord, then remember thine handmaid.

32 And David said to Abigail, Blessed be the LORD God of Israel, which sent thee this day to meet me:

33 And blessed be thy advice, and blessed be thou, which hast kept me this day from coming to shed blood, and from avenging myself with mine own hand.

34 For in very deed, as the LORD God of Israel liveth, which hath kept me back from hurting thee, except thou hadst hasted and come to meet me, surely there had not been left unto Nabal by the morning light any that pisseth against the wall.

35 So David received of her hand that which she had brought him, and said unto her, Go up in peace to thine house; see, I have hearkened to thy voice, and have accepted thy person.

36 And Abigail came to Nabal; and, behold, he held a feast in his house, like the feast of a king; and Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunken: wherefore she told him nothing, less or more, until the morning light.

INTRODUCTION: The dictionary defines “to submit” as to accept the authority, control or greater strength of somebody/something. It also means to yield or give in to somebody/something. One major problem of our modern day married women is their inability to willingly submit to their husbands. The devil is now using one of their justifications – support the husband as a bait for their non – submission.

Wives need to be conscious of the fact that both submission and supporting the husbands are God’s request (Ephesians 5:24; Genesis 2:18b) “….. I will make a help meet for him”. Complete obedience to the words of God should be the watchword for our wives, and we pray that the spirit of humility will not abandon our wives in Jesus’ name.

MEMORY VERSE: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” Colossians 3:18

TEXT REVIEW: Ruth 1:4-19; 1 Samuel 25:3-36
i. Wives are to care and deal kindly to their husbands.
ii. Wives are to stay glued to their husbands.
iii. Wives stay with their husbands when situation is unpleasant.
iv. Wives remain committed to everything that pertains if her husband.
v. Wives should not at anytime be separated from their husbands except death.
vi. Wives are to deal in understanding and wisdom with their husbands.


To submit and support means:

  1. To accept the authority of the husband with the spirit of humility. 1 Peter 3:1.
  2. To show respect in one’s relationship with their husbands. Genesis 18:13, 1 Peter 3:6.
  3. To always yield to the husband in decision making. 1 Corinthians 9:19-22.
  4. To present her points of argument in a manner that does not portray pomposity or arrogance. Matthew 18:15.
  5. Even when the husband is financially weak and God has blessed the wife, she should also be guided by the above golden thought. 1 Timothy 2:12.
  6. Consequently, she should support him voluntarily and willingly in all the needed areas of the family.
  7. She should not compete for or usurp the headship position of the husband. 1 Corinthians 14:34; 1 Corinthians 11:3.
  8. Any act of unnecessary provocation from the wife should be totally avoided. Proverbs 14:1.
  9. The wife is the mother in the house while the father; the wife is expected to be humble and supportive to the husband whenever the need arises, apart from being a caring mother to the children.
  10. In a situation where the wide has become the bread winner of the family instead of the husband, the wife should also pray to God for financial breakthrough for her husband. She must display humility at all times. The wife is expected to cover up for the husband in areas of his weakness without allowing the outsiders to know the husband’s weakness as shown by Abigail’s gallantry in preventing the destruction of her family by King David and his men. 1 Samuel 25:1-28.

SUMMARY: With wisdom, a house is built.

CONCLUSION: In any family, where the wife has failed to submit and support the husband, there will be no peace of God. When two elephants fight, the grasses bear the brunt. The children will suffer, even though they are not the cause. For a nonsubmissive wife, the tendency to have a broken home is high. Such family will not be able to fulfill the purpose of God for them.

ASSIGNMENT: Mention the qualities wives must possess to build her home


  1. Father, please give all our wives the spirit of humility that will make them to submit and support their husbands in RCCG.
  2. Father, please open the inner eyes of our married women to understand God’s assigned duties for them in marriage.
  3. Father, please help our married women to support their husbands without seeking the family headship position divinely assigned to their husbands.
  4. Father, you helped Mummy G.O. to be submissive and supportive of Daddy G.O., make every married woman in RCCG, a carbon copy of Our Mother in Israel in deeds and character.
  5. Father, please give our wives the spiritual understanding that husbands are the crowns on their heads.
  6. Father, please help our women not to destroy the crowns you have placed on their heads.
  7. Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1. Father, please make all our women in RCCG home builders and not destroyers in Jesus’ name.


MONDAY: Genesis 2:18b. Father, make our wives help meets indeed, in Jesus’ name.

TUESDAY: Ephesians 5:23 Father, please make our husbands head indeed over our wives. Help our wives to put you first in the area of submission and support for their husbands.

WEDNESDAY: 1 Samuel 25:3-36 Father, please let all wives in RCCG emulate Abigail in hospitality, excellent character. Abigail protected her husband from the Sword of David and his boys; Oh Lord, give our women the wisdom to cover the nakedness of their husbands when the need arises.

FRIDAY: Ruth 4:1-19 Father, please give our wives the ability to read into the future beyond today.

SATURDAY: 1 Corinthians 14:34. Father, please give your daughters the grace to remain silent in obedience to their husband’s instructions.

SUNDAY: 1 Peter 3:6; 1 Timothy 2:9-10. Father, please help our married women to give due respect to their husbands. Oh Lord, help them not to idolize external adornment and sacrifice internal adornment.

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