Pastor Faith Oyedepo: Becoming A ‘Help Meet’ (1)

Topic: Becoming A ‘Help Meet’ (1)

Dear Reader,

Happy New Month! It’s a wonderful month and the Bible says: In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, was there the tree of life, which bare twelve manner of fruits, and yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations(Revelation 22:2). So, there is a fruit for you this month and it is my earnest prayer that you receive every package God has ordained for you!

This month, I shall be teaching on, Becoming A ‘Help Meet.’ The first thing that comes to the mind of many when they hear the word “Help Meet” is that it refers to the assignment of a WOMAN. Others see it as a nice way of referring to a servant or slave.

However, God’s Word says: …And the Lord said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).The word “help meet” implies one who “surrounds with assistance.” God’s decision resulted in the creation of the woman as a solution. She was the perfect help Adam could not find among the animals, trees, plants and other things created.

The word “Man” as referred to in this context, does not imply that only the woman is the ‘help meet’. The word ‘Man’ in the Bible usually covers male and female. Both are created to complement each other by filling up the vacuum in each other’s lives.  This can be seen clearly in the physical build of the man and woman.  While the Man as a ‘help meet’ amongst other duties has the responsibilities of providing, protecting and taking care of his home; the woman on the other hand, reproduces, makes the home and does all other motherly duties.


When the first man (Adam) was given a woman as a help meet, he knew he had the responsibility to help her in return. So he said in Genesis 2:23: …This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

In actual fact, he knew that he had full responsibility to assist his woman with all she would ever need spiritually, physically, emotionally and materially. To meet this responsibility, God has put in the man: strength, security, protective and provisional force. Therefore, you are expected to surround your woman with every form of assistance. The Bible says: likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (1 Peter 3:7).

Helping your woman demands that you exercise understanding and honour her.  Being an effective help meet to your wife is very important, as failure to meet this responsibility renders your prayers unanswered. There is nothing as frustrating as praying and receiving no answers to all your prayers, but this shall not be your portion in Jesus’ name!

The man has a responsibility to make his woman become what he wants her to be.  Therefore, if your woman’s weaknesses are still of concern even after you got married to her; then, it means you are not carrying out your responsibilities effectively. You must surround her with help in all areas, no matter how little it may seem.

For example, a man who complains so much that his wife has become too fat, should consider it his fault since he did not marry her a fat woman. If you have an ill-mannered wife, you are to be blamed, because you know her more than any other person. It is your responsibility to take care of her completely as you would do to yourself.  So, why not do a good job at home? Be the man – that is the divine order!

Lending a helping hand and being available makes a lot of difference in relationships. It can be frustrating for a woman to be busy with house chores while the man sits in front of the television enjoying a game of football. Why not take a step, help her around the house; this adds credence to your profession of love.

Read this testimony carefully:

“When the Bishop’s wife taught us the course, Family Life, at the Bible School, one would have thought she had secretly conducted a research on me, because every aspect of the lecture was directed at me.  After the second day of the course, I got home to discover that my wife had to carry 20 crates of soft drinks down the road; at the same time, trying to get dinner ready.

Unknown to her, I packed all the crates into my car and took them there for her. When I got home, my wife was at the door excitedly singing and dancing as a result of my new behaviour! That was all the service I needed to have rendered in my family. Since then, it has been joy and peace galore!”

Husband, there may be times when your wife is down physically. The help you render to her at such times, either in form of support, kind words, a little physical touch, a kiss or a little gift from you will do the magic!

It is no understatement to say God will hold you accountable for anything that happens in your home.  So, rise up to your responsibilities!  I see His grace constantly available to help you carry out this responsibility effectively in Jesus’ name!

This grace is made available, by accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready for this experience, please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

Congratulations! You are now born again! All -round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through or08141320204, 07026385437.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.

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