Topic: Steps to marriage (1) [Tuesday July 21, 2015]
“Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh and intermeddleth with all wisdom.”-Proverbs 18:1
Marriage is honourable; it is not a thing you should be ashamed of. There are blessings and favours attached to it, hence the desire of most singles to get into it. Marriage by God’s standard is good, and it is designed to help you accomplish more than you would have, if you remained single.
Some singles however, have needed knowledge of what marriage is and also desire to be married, but they do not match these desires with their words and actions. This may either be due to the “shame” they feel of publicly admitting what they want or pride. Some even shed secret tears but on the outside, put on a bold face; so as to give others the impression that they either don’t want to be married or don’t care about their status.
While you don’t go about declaring your status to everyone in desperation, your conversations on marriage should show that you understand what it is and you intend to enter into it with utmost understanding. Yes, you should not need to be desperate about marriage, but you must understand that desiring it does not equal desperation, except you make it so. However, if you really want something then you should boldly and openly confess it to yourself. Desires are primarily in the heart, but they find expression when spoken of and acted upon.
Don’t pretend not to want marriage, while suffering sleepless nights because of it. Who knows, the person intended for you might have noticed you, but your attitude has given him/her the wrong impression about you and/or your want for it. More so, if an occasion arises for you to declare your stand, do it boldly with the confidence that God will confirm whatever you say in faith and with authority. Your expectations concerning this issue shall not be cut short, in the name of Jesus Christ!
Pastor Faith Abiola Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.