RCCG House Fellowship Leader Manual 19 June 2022, Lesson 42 – Do Not Choose Your Partner By Sight Only. Case Of Samson And Delilah.

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TOPIC: Do Not Choose Your Partner By Sight Only. Case Of Samson And Delilah. (Scroll down for RCCG House Fellowship 19 June 2022 Anthem)

OPENING PRAYER: Father, help me to choose the right partner by Your wish.

PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE: Leaders should ask members why Christians or Believers in sin and still partake in the Holy Communion.

MEMORY VERSE: “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” – Colossians 3:20

BIBLE TEXT: Judges 13:7-14; 14:1-4; 16:1,4 (KJV)

Judges 13:7-14:
7 But he said unto me, Behold, thou shalt conceive, and bear a son; and now drink no wine nor strong drink, neither eat any unclean thing: for the child shall be a Nazarite to God from the womb to the day of his death.

8 Then Manoah intreated the Lord, and said, O my Lord, let the man of God which thou didst send come again unto us, and teach us what we shall do unto the child that shall be born.

9 And God hearkened to the voice of Manoah; and the angel of God came again unto the woman as she sat in the field: but Manoah her husband was not with her.

10 And the woman made haste, and ran, and shewed her husband, and said unto him, Behold, the man hath appeared unto me, that came unto me the other day.

11 And Manoah arose, and went after his wife, and came to the man, and said unto him, Art thou the man that spakest unto the woman? And he said, I am.

12 And Manoah said, Now let thy words come to pass. How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto him?

13 And the angel of the Lord said unto Manoah, Of all that I said unto the woman let her beware.

14 She may not eat of any thing that cometh of the vine, neither let her drink wine or strong drink, nor eat any unclean thing: all that I commanded her let her observe.

Judges 14:1-4:
1 And Samson went down to Timnath, and saw a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines.

2 And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.

3 Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well.

4 But his father and his mother knew not that it was of the Lord, that he sought an occasion against the Philistines: for at that time the Philistines had dominion over Israel.

Judges 16:1:
16 Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there an harlot, and went in unto her.

Also Read:
RCCG Sunday School Teacher Manual 19 June 2022: Degrees Of Restitution
RCCG Sunday School Student Manual 19 June 2022 – Lesson 42
Open Heaven 19 June 2022 – Father, Where Are You? I

LESSON INTRODUCTION: Marriage is a lifelong union between a male and a female, to fulfill one of the mandates of God for mankind – procreation. Genesis 1:28. In addition, the Bible in Genesis 1:27 said “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” meaning that for every male child, given birth to, God has created his wife with him, and vice versa. The problem now is searching and getting right the particular heavenly match for everyone.

Holy Spirit, please, open up Your words the more for us and sharpen our understanding for comprehension, in Jesus Name. Amen.


A. LESSON AIM: To admonish Christians to constantly know that searching is not the problem but getting right the particular heavenly match for everyone.

B. TEACHING OBJECTIVES: At the end of the lesson, members should be able to:
i. Know that the first marriage was in the garden of Eden.
ii. Wait patiently for God’s instructions and then follow His directives.

C. TEXT REVIEW: JUDGES 13:7-14; 14:1-4; 16:1,4.
i. In the Bible, Samson choose a wife by sight.
ii. Both the father and mother cautioned him but he refused.

D. TEACHING METHOD: Use interactive/ discussion method.

E. TIME MANAGEMENT: Share the teaching time using the suggested time schedule.



The general recipe for a successful marriage is that as you are stepping into it, you go back to the “manufacturer” who has the manuscript of your marriage. Psalms 37:5-6, Proverbs 3:6,5. What actually, does He want to achieve with my marriage and who exactly has he carried has he created for me. The next thing is to wait patiently for His instruction and then follow His directives.


  1. Samson disobeyed his parents – Father and Mother. Colossians 3:20.
  2. He also disobeyed God. 1 Samuel 15:22
  3. The soul that sinneth shall die, Samson disobeyed God and he died both spiritually and physically. Romans 6:23.
  4. Samson allows the physical beauty of all the three ladies he came across, including Delilah to misled him. Proverbs 31:30b, 1 John 2:16.
  5. Samson could not fulfill destiny because he allowed his flesh to dictate to him against the spirit of God. Galatians 5:16-21, Judges 16:28-30.
  6. Manoah and his wife could have gone back to God (Samson’s Manufacturer) on their kneels for Him to remold Samson according to His original plan, which is to deliver the Israelites from the Philistines. Jeremiah 18:4, Romans 9:21.

ACTIVITY: Discuss why marriages are been destroyed?

SUMMARY: You can choose for yourself a partner but God knows the best for you.

CONCLUSION: When it concerns choosing life partner, none of whatever consideration is much more important than bringing the Initiator of marriage, as the number one consideration.


  1. Father, please help all our young adults who are at the verge of choosing their life partners the grace to always put You first in every step leading to marriage.
  2. Father, please help all parents who are believers to act like Abraham when was to get a life partner for his son Isaac.
  3. Father, please help all Believers’ young adults to be obedient to their parents and God.
  4. Father, please give all parents the grace to train their children in the way of the Lord so that they will continue in this way even when they are grown-up.


MONDAY: 1 Samuel 15:22. Father, please give us the grace to be obedient to all instructions.

TUESDAY: 2 Corinthians 5:7. Father, please with respect to choosing our life partners, help us to work by faith and rely on You only.

WEDNESDAY: Ephesians 6:1-3. Father, help our children to obey their parents.

THURSDAY: Genesis 24:1-End. Father, please grant all our parents the grace to play their parts rightly and completely in line with God’s leading, in the life of our young Adults.

FRIDAY: Genesis 24:1-End. Father, please help us and let everything around us help us fulfill your directives for us.

SATURDAY: Judges 16:1-End. Father, everything within me or around me that will not allow me to fulfill Your purpose for my life, please by Your mercy, destroy completely.

SUNDAY: Galatians 5:16-18. Father, please give me grace to always walk in the Spirit so as not to fulfill the lust of the flesh.

House Fellowship Anthem

1 I love this family Of God,
So closely knitted into one,
They have taken me into their arms
And ‘am so glad to be
A part of this great family

2 I bless this family of God,
So greatly prospered by the Lord,
They have taken me into their arms
And ‘am so glad to be
A part of this great family

3 I know this family of God,
So deeply rooted in the word,
They have taken me into their arms
And ‘am so glad to be
A part of this great family

4 I see this family of God,
So highly lifted above all,
They have taken me into their arms
And ‘am so glad to be
A part of this great family

5 Come and join this family of God,
So highly favoured by the Lord,
They have taken me into their arms
And ‘am so glad to be
A part of this great family

10 minutes for Opening Prayer, Praise and Worship
10 minutes for Testimonies
15 minutes for Bible Discussion
15 minutes for General Prayers
10 minutes for Questions & Answers
5 minutes for Welcoming New Members
10 minutes for Announcements, Offering, House Fellowship Anthem & Closing Prayers.
Total – 60 Minutes (1 Hour)

Pastor E.A. Adeboye.
The General Overseer of, The Redeemed Christian Church Of God.