Whether by church wedding or signing at court, parents are giving consent for their children to be tied in holy matrimony hoping that they will procreate and live a happy life afterwards.
After all the lavish ceremonies; cutting of cake, smiles and extravagant wedding dress, posing for selfies that is the imaginary dream of most contemporary women, the executory part of fulfilling the promises made to God in the presence of family, friends, colleagues and invited guest is the hard nut to crack.
How do you maintain your marriage in reality?
How do you become a better spouse for your partner and a good parent to your children?
Arguing is inevitable in a relationship, even twins fight in the womb as superstition says but if you follow these 4 Cs – (Communication, Commitment, Companionship and Care) – there will be peace and love in your relationship.
1. Communication: Communication is the pivot around which every relationship evolves. Constant interaction with each other, whether phone calls, text or face-to-face erase all doubt and suspicions in a relationship.
Couples must agree to disagree amicably, forecast and plan for the future.
Don’t hesitate to say “am sorry” when you offend your partner, if you are not vulnerable in front of your partner then who else?
Words like: “I love you, am sorry, forgive and thank you” should be used daily in a healthy relationship.
Educator and author, Stephen Covey, once said that “the biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply”.
Try to listen to spouse just to understand what he/she is saying without reply. Just acknowledge.
2. Commitment: “In sickness and in health, rain or shine…..” Commitment means dedicating yourself effortlessly to support and provide the needed assistance to your partner to maintain your relationship. And the two shall become one, which means one has to compromise in certain instance without murmuring or nagging.
A writer Joseph Campbell underscores that, “When you sacrifice in a marriage, you are sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship”.
No one person must feel he or she is carrying all the burden in the relationship. Comments like “I’m better off single than married” should be avoided.
Couple can no longer think of themselves alone; anything you are thinking, think of your spouse in it.
3. Companionship: Love and s*x is an important portion in the love realm. The bible establishes that “Do not deprive each other [of marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves [unhindered] to prayer”.
Constant lovemaking provides the avenue to experience each other’s inner feelings and spiritually and emotionally grow your relationship.
‘S*x is sweet’; one reaches orgasm during makeup s*x, after big announcements or during couple’s special occasions. Marriage is the only morally upright way within which the human kind is procreated.
4. Care: Justice delayed isn’t always justice denied, at least not where marriage is concerned. Show gratitude to your partner for each little thing done. Never underestimate the power of appreciation, which opens doors for greater things.
The kitchen is the woman’s paramount place. Women take care of your husbands from the kitchen to the dinning, so he too can take of you from the dinning to the bedroom.
Wife, adore their husband and shower him with praises, say nice words like ‘I love you’.
Popular author, Julia Child, said “the secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they’re right if you love to be with them all the time”. Couples must spend quality time in the house.
Issues will come up from time to time, but always smile even when you wife or husband is angry. Bring some fun into the house and plead with your spouse in love. A beautiful marriage is very possible.
Source: a good wife
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